You’re Not Too Much — You’re Just Anxiously Attached
If you’ve ever felt ashamed of your emotions…
If you’ve apologized for needing reassurance…
If you’ve been told you’re “too intense,” “too sensitive,” or “too emotional”…
I want you to hear this clearly:
You are not too much.
You learned to feel deeply because connection once felt unsafe.
Where the “Too Much” Narrative Comes From
People with anxious attachment often learned early that:
their emotions were inconvenient
their needs overwhelmed others
expressing feelings led to rejection or withdrawal
closeness wasn’t guaranteed
So you adapted.
You learned to monitor.
To anticipate.
To adjust.
To please.
To over-function.
To shrink yourself to keep connection.
And then — as an adult — you were told your reactions were the problem.
They’re not.
Your Sensitivity Is Not the Problem
Your sensitivity is a strength.
The problem isn’t your emotions — it’s that no one taught you how to feel safe with them.
Anxious attachment develops when emotions were met with inconsistency — not compassion.
So now, your nervous system reacts quickly and intensely in relationships.
This doesn’t make you broken.
It makes you human.
What Healing Actually Looks Like
Healing anxious attachment doesn’t mean becoming less emotional.
It means:
regulating your nervous system
learning to self-soothe
validating your feelings without shame
communicating without panic
setting boundaries without fear
choosing yourself consistently
building internal safety
trusting yourself
You don’t need to be smaller to be loved.
You need to feel safe being who you are.
You Can Learn Security
Secure attachment is not reserved for “lucky” people.
It’s learned.
With the right tools, guidance, and compassion, your nervous system can change.
That’s why I created Healing Anxious Attachment — a 15-module self-guided course designed to help you:
stop spiraling
calm your body
heal abandonment wounds
build self-trust
feel secure in relationships
stop fearing loss
choose healthier connections
You are not too much.
You are wired for connection — and now, you’re learning how to make that connection feel safe.
